“Allow nature to take its course. Grant the sufferers the dignity of their own process. Let them define meaning. Sit simply through moments of pain and uncomfortable darkness. Be practical, mundane, simple and direct”.
These words of wisdom come from a recent New York Times article, “The Art of Presence” by David Brooks.
As many of us who have experienced grief know, the impact of having someone to be present with you during tough times is immeasurable. However sometimes what grieving people receive is anything but presence: friends choosing to “give them space”, or on the other hand, friends trying to fix their sadness or make sense of it. It can be difficult to put words to what you really need. If this NY Times article speaks to you, consider sharing it with friends and family to help them understand.